DO YOU KNOW YOUR NEIGHBOR?
Frankly, I don’t even know his name! Not his first or last name! Just because you stay near someone, does not mean you have an intimate relationship with that person. HDB flats, divorce & Proximity cannot be taken for granted
As Singaporeans, most of us grow up in HDB flats. We see our neighbors every day, if not every other day.
Sometimes, we watch their children grow up, sometimes we even take the same bus to school or work together…Unfortunately, that may be all we know about them.
I just stumbled upon a revelation:
PROXIMITY IS NOT INTIMACY!
We may share a bed with our spouses. We may go to the same office with our colleagues. We may go to church every week. All these everyday activities do not guarantee intimate relationships with anyone!
Last year, I went for my Reservist in-camp training, and I realized that most of my peers suffered from broken marriages and were in the midst of having a divorce.
I realised relationships left on their own, do not work themselves out.
Relationships require purposeful commitments from both parties!
Today, when I reached home, I purposefully spent 1 hour of my time, playing hide and seek & ‘goofing’ around with the kids.
If I want a good relationship with God, my wife and kids, I need to make time for them.
BTW, before I go, here are some videos.
My wife likes the 1st one and I prefer the 2nd one.